If possible, try to avoid this common barrier. The majority of the time, it is not your fault when others mistreat you.
When you're feeling down on yourself, try to put yourself in your friend's shoes and be as kind to yourself as you would be to them.
Suppressing feelings may be easier in the moment, but it can lead to a breakdown in the future.
Even if you don't want to, you must discuss your emotions in these situations. It is liberating to acknowledge your emotions and take a moment to breathe.
Although there's no way to know when the awful emotions that follow an affair will surface, it can help to prepare yourself now.
You could tell yourself things like, "When I feel a painful emotion, I will commit to writing it down, calling a friend, or doing whatever calms me down."
No matter your relationship status, talking to a trained professional who has seen the effects of infidelity firsthand can help you heal and move on.
In therapy, one can face their fears and overcome their traumas in a safe and empowering setting.
It's important to not put undue pressure on yourself to get over an ex just because you hear of other people who have done so.
In the interim, show yourself compassion. It is crucial to recognize that some peaks will be extremely high and lows extremely low.